Tag: boundaries

I've been on a few good dates and things are going well. I don't want to scare them off by talking about travel plans or timelines too early and but I also want to be honest about goals. When is a respectful time to bring this up, and how do you phrase it?

I love my partner & but I need quiet time to recharge. How can I ask for that without hurting feelings? (Details: small budget, limited time, and I'd prefer simple over perfect.)

I like my in-laws, but our place is small and my cat judges everyone from the highest shelf. We're planning a visit and trying to set a length that feels kind without turning our living room into a long-term campsite. They're early risers; we're night owls, and we both work from home on weekdays. What's a reasonable cap—like two nights max—before everyone needs a breather? Bonus points for polite scripts that keep it warm while still giving our cat her throne back.

Looking for phrasing that sets expectations while keeping the relationship positive. Any tips that have worked for you? Quick background: I've tried a couple things already but keep getting stuck.

It happens in group settings and I freeze because I don't want to cause drama. I want to address it respectfully without putting my partner in a tough spot. What's a calm way to set a boundary in the moment?

I don't want to come off as controlling, but I feel a little hurt when we're together and the phones keep coming out. Would it be fair to suggest a couple phone-free hours in the evening, and how do I phrase it so it feels like a team thing? I'm open to compromises if there's a better approach. If it matters, this is for a normal household setup, nothing fancy.

Earlier this year I covered a friend's share of a group trip because their card wasn't working. They said they'd pay me back the next week, and I believed them. It's now been a few months, and I haven't seen anything. It's not a huge sum, but it's enough that I notice it. We still hang out, and I don't want to make things weird. Could you suggest a polite way to bring it up without sounding accusatory? A short text or two I could copy would help. Also, how many reminders are reasonable before I drop it or get firmer?