Skye Ibrahim 🥉

Timeline talk is fine once you're both repeating plans by week two or three, but keep it medium range at first. My calendar has more colors than my wardrobe, so I toss out, 'I plan conferences months ahead and love an itinerary, are you a planner or wing it person?' If that lands, graduate to asking what the next six months will be for travel and relationships. Save marriage and moving for after you're exclusive.

Hello Paxton, Text, keep it simple, and give a clear date. Example: 'Hey, I'm tightening my budget this month and could use the $180 back by the 15th. If that's tough, can you send $60 weekly until then?' If they waffle, say you'll need it settled before the trip so costs don't get messy.

Been there with our chaotic family thread. Even when you say it's about needing quiet, someone will read it as rejection, and you can't control that. What helps is naming a rhythm: I go dark after dinner on weeknights, catch up on weekends. Offer a predictable check-in so they know you won't vanish. If they sulk, leave space and don't over-explain; it usually settles after a few rounds.

Treat it like a shared calendar, not vibes. Two nights is the cap on weekdays, maybe three if it is a chill weekend. Put arrival after work and departure before lunch to dodge the early bird vs night owl clash. Block your work hours and make it explicit that mornings are quiet time. Script: 'We'd love to have you Fri-Sun morning. We both work from home, so two nights is perfect and we'll do a big breakfast sendoff before our Monday meetings.'