Hi Brian,
Yes, it's very normal to want more alone time than your partner, and it does not mean you love them less. Think of it like an energy style difference rather than a compatibility flaw. Bring it up at a calm moment and lead with reassurance. Try something like, "I love being with you, and I show up as my best self when I get a little solo recharge. When I ask for time alone I'm not pulling away from you, I'm topping up so I can be more present." Then get concrete: "Most days after work I need 30 minutes by myself," or "Could we plan one evening a week where we do our own thing and then reconnect?"
Suggest a structure that meets both needs, such as putting your solo blocks and couple time on a shared calendar so it feels predictable and safe. Offer alternatives for their connection need, like a standing check-in text during your alone time or a set cuddle-and-chat before you go do your separate thing. If it helps, frame it as quality over quantity, and invite their input: "What would help you feel connected while I recharge?" Follow through by returning when you say you will and re-engaging intentionally so the pattern reinforces trust. If they hear "space" as rejection, try different language like "recharge time" or "focus time," and consider some parallel play options where you are in the same room doing different things.
