Hi Matthew,
No & it's not rude at all to ask for alone time when you're living with a partner. Everyone needs space to recharge & especially if you're more introverted or just dealing with daily stress. The key is how you communicate it so it doesn't come across as rejection. Start by framing it positively, like saying you love spending time together but you function better with some quiet moments to yourself. For example, you could say something like, 'Hey, I really cherish our time together, but I've been feeling a bit drained lately and I think an hour or two alone in the evenings would help me be more present when we're hanging out.' That way, you're emphasizing the benefit to the relationship.
To make it simple and low-effort, pick a consistent time or signal that works for both of you, without needing fancy setups or expenses. Maybe agree on using headphones as a 'do not disturb' sign when you're in the same room. Be open to compromise, like if they want to check in after a bit. Over time, this can become a normal part of your routine, strengthening your bond because you're both respecting each other's needs. If feelings do get hurt initially, reassure them it's not about them but about your own energy levels. Just remember, consistency and kindness go a long way in making this work smoothly.
